"DUPLICITY": "DUPLICITY"

Many years back I had this lovely friend who had just been married to her husband she'd dated for four years, as far as she was concerned there was nothing she did not know about the man she'd married, he was to her the most honest man on earth and she couldn't have asked for a better man. Sadly though some of us had seen her man on some occasions with different women and even though people tried to warn her, as far as she was concerned they were the enemies. By the time it got to her wedding, she barely had any friends left, she'd fallen out with anyone who'd tried to warn her about her spouses infidelity. Deception or duplicity as it may well be known has always been an issue in dysfunctional relationships, a man has an affair or series of affair and manages to fool his wife or girlfriend into thinking he is completely faithful.

Well, that is what happened with this friend, she came to visit me a year into her marriage and was outraged, a friend had told her that her husband was seeing someone else on a regular basis but as it appears she did not believe what she was told. Tell me something I hadn't already known... but yet I had to keep my nose out of her business, after all I was single and she was married, the last thing I needed was to be accused of wreaking a home.
Why is this the case? what in God's name is love? is it real?

Well, I've heard many people say that when you truly love someone, it is hard to ever see any wrong in what they do, You love them to bits and want to believe that they love you back. Wow! "A friend comes up to you and tells you that she thinks your husband is leading a double life, how dare she... what level of insanity and resentment would make someone, your so called friend to tell you such an ugly lies... lies?" she'd complained. What can I say? I stood speechless because I know that she would not want to know what I was thinking. This friend would not be the first neither would she be the last but was it my place to tell her what she'd already known? well I didn't think so. What are you so afraid of then? why are you jumpy and defensive? I wondered at least investigate otherwise you'll end up being frustrated and alone, well that was what happened. She fell out with everyone who tried to warn her and now I was the only friend she had and was now weary of her as well so after her last visit I lost contact with her. I met her at the shopping mall three years later and she looked a lot different. We went to a near by coffee shop for a quick chat. "How's your husband?" I asked tentatively. "What husband?" she barked. I looked at her finger and noticed that she was no longer wearing her wedding ring.
She caught him in bed with her neighbor and because of how engrossed they were in lovemaking or whatever the activity was called, neither one of them knew when she entered the room, she went away quietly and went shopping for a sexy nightie, that night she cooked his favorite meal and gave him the time of his life, it was no wonder he got completely worn out and she castrated her husband whilst he was asleep and flushed his manhood down the toilet just so he doesn't get it patched up. I felt sick as she told me. She had been in a mental institution for two years and had only just been discharged. She could get on with her life now but her ex lost his manhood for life.

Men or deceptive spouses, beware! When you multi date you are surely heading for destruction! one white lie leads to another and before you realize it a large web of lies is knitted around you. You've been getting away with your lies too many times that you begin to assume that you are a genius and then things get out of control and that is when the insanity begins. Duplicity could destroy you. It is a fact that hell knows no fury like the rage of a woman who has been betrayed. Driven to the state of insanity, this friend castrated her lying, cheating husband and even though it was a horrible thing to do, the fact is that he brought it upon himself, now I bet he doesn't feel that cool about himself; so you see, duplicity does destroy lives on the long run.